Relationships can be tough and this woman reveals some important aspects of how important it is finding the right partner. This is especially the case when one person suffers from mental illness which causes them to push away the person they love.
This woman thankfully has a boyfriend that understands.
Her name is Callie Amelia Theodore. She suffers from anxiety. Her recent message shows how her boyfriend handles it and the effective, simple steps he takes that helps their relationship tremendously.
Her message begins with a description of anxiety from Thought Catalog:
“Someone with anxiety is inclined to assume everyone is going to leave. The truth is they battle something they can’t control and there is a sense of insecurity within themselves when it comes to relationships. They know it’s difficult and they don’t want to burden you with their irrational thoughts and worries. So instead, they try to push you away before you get the chance to leave yourself.”
A partner who won’t bail on the situation when things get intense is absolutely ideal.
Here’s her advice:
“Find someone that no matter how hard you push them- they do not leave.”
For Callie, it was Chris Briggs. She includes a text message exchange which shows how Chris is there for her.
“It’s hard loving someone who suffers from anxiety. They will be over sensitive, they will make up scenarios in their head causing an argument, and constant reassurance is needed.”
It was a simple response, “very much so honey” which really worked for Callie when anxiety set in and she asked if their relationship was really alright.
“There are people out there like that. People that calm you and bring you a sense of security- that will be stronger than any dose of medication that can be prescribed.”
Briggs describes in a video how he has had rough times as well, while giving examples of people who seem totally happy, but suffer from mental illness that can cause them to actually kill themselves.
You never really know what people are going through inside their heads. So it’s important to always remember that people suffer in different ways.
Support groups help as Briggs points out. He also emphasizes the importance to not let your demons get the best of you.
Encouragement is the key in Chris and Callie’s message.
“You may have anxiety, but anxiety doesn’t have you.”
Well said. Always aim to improve and never allow mental illness to win.
Share this couple’s important message with friends and family!